Is It Love or Lust?

Keen Category: Love Advice

A couple in a lusty embrace, while the woman looks doubtfully away

If you seem to be constantly finding love that starts out great but then dies a tragic death, perhaps it wasn't love at all. Chances are that it was lust instead. Both are powerful emotions, and many people get the two confused. So what's the difference?

Think of lust and love as fires. Lust is like a fire made with resin-rich pine. It burns hot, but it doesn't last long. Now, picture love as a fire made with seasoned oak. It burns a slow, steady flame and lasts for hours. It doesn't produce the same initial heat and flame as the pine fire, but when it comes to longevity, the oak wins every time.

What Is Lust?

Lust is no more than physical attraction. Scientists aren't exactly sure why someone is attracted to certain individuals, but some believe it has something to do with pheromones – chemicals that trigger a certain response and behavior. In animals, sex pheromones are used to indicate that a female is ready for breeding. Microscopic organisms, insects, and even mammals use pheromones to signal breeding availability. While admittedly better at sending a clear signal than a lot of dating scenarios, it doesn't sound very romantic, does it?

To help understand what lust is, remember that humans are one of the very few species who engage in sex for pleasure instead of just for procreation. Men and women are attracted to certain individuals on a physical level, even when they have no desire to create a child. Lust can be a one-night stand or a tawdry affair spanning weeks or months. In fact, you can be sexually attracted to people you don't even particularly like; you don't have to have deep feelings for someone to receive physical pleasure from them.

On the other hand, you might fall head-over-heels in lust with someone you really do like – at least for a short period. A powerful force, lust can fill you with a sense of overwhelming desire and practically consume you. It can play tricks on your mind and cloud your thinking and your judgment. Lust can make you believe, or make you want to believe, that you've found love, when, in fact, all you've found is physical desire.

What Is Love?

Real love is not physical – it runs deeper than that. True love is the bond created between two people based on respect, admiration, loyalty, support, and emotional fulfillment. It means caring more about the other person than you do about yourself. A couple in love usually share the same life goals and work together to achieve them. True love overcomes all obstacles and often includes self-sacrifice. Unlike lust, love doesn't diminish with the passage of time. Instead, it grows stronger and deeper.

Finding True Love

It goes without saying that while finding lusty sex is easy, finding love can be very difficult. Almost everyone longs to find his or her soulmate, the person they want to grow old with. But with all the millions of people in the world, how do you find that special one – the person who can fulfill your deepest longings?

Unfortunately, there isn't a handbook or map to guide you in your quest for finding love, but help is available in the stars. Everyone is born with certain personality traits, according to the zodiac sign under which they were born. This is an important yet often overlooked aspect in finding love – true love. You might find that you're sexually attracted and even sexually compatible with numerous signs, but you won't be mentally and emotionally compatible with most of them. They might make for a fun and exciting fling, but they won't make good partners for a long-term relationship. It's all so confusing!

Fortunately, a psychic trained in astrology can lead you safely through the confusion, help you distinguish between love and lust and help you find your soulmate. A gifted psychic can read your chart and the chart of your lover and tell you whether or not the relationship has a chance of evolving into real love. Not only can they tell you things about your partner that may take you years to discover, they can also tell you much about yourself that you didn't even realize! You might not be able to tell if what you're feeling is love or lust, but your psychic guide can look at the situation objectively and give you sound advice. If you don't already have a potential love match in mind, consulting a psychic can help with that, too. Your psychic can "weed out" the bad matches and help you concentrate on the good, saving you months or even years of valuable time you might waste finding lust instead of finding love.

By consulting a psychic, you'll be taking the first step in judging potential partners with your head and your heart instead of with your sexual desires. Why go it alone when consulting a psychic by phone is so easy and painless? Your psychic most likely has years of experience in matters of the heart, and you'll find them incredibly easy to talk to. More like talking to an old friend and confidant than a stranger, consulting a psychic is easy, enjoyable, and very enlightening. And when compared to the value you receive, the cost is a pittance. Besides, how can you place a price on finding love and long-lasting happiness and fulfillment?

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