What Your Lingerie Says About Your Hopes in Love

Keen Category: Love Advice

A satin chemise lying on a bed

We all make subconscious decisions and they are based on who we are at our deepest level. One of the first decisions you make each day is what to wear underneath what your clothes. The many reasons you choose your lingerie add up to revealing who you are when it comes to describing your hopes in love. Your lingerie is a substitute for what you truly would prefer to be with you alone, intimately, throughout the day.

Which of these lingerie descriptions best fits your wardrobe? While the majority of the people you meet may never notice it, you may be letting them all know about your hopes in love in other ways, so read below to find out what you have been telling yourself on this subject.

  • Designer Lingerie
    When you buy by the brand and inevitably wear a matching set, your hope is to fall in love with a successful member of the establishment. Sexy lingerie confirms that you are his attractive partner. The roles in your love life are deeply established and contingent on him continuing on the road to success while you work your best to stay gorgeous as his reward.

  • White Cotton & Sensible
    Most girls start out here and evolve as their world-view and self-image begin to change. Quite a few return to this combo and its comfort and convenience underscore a desire for a traditional love life. Maybe skip the white picket fence, but a good husband and eventually having children are central to the picture of where you see yourself and your life in the hopefully not-too- distant future.

  • Thong
    This colorful and provocative bottom often has a revealing high strap. What you are really looking for in love, though, is a man who sets limits with you. Your deepest desire is to be told to dress more conservatively and since you so want to please the man telling you this, you comply. You are provoking to test the limits because you want a father figure to strongly school you in the ways of love.

  • Body Shapers
    These trendy undergarments are made to hold in your belly, waist and often your thighs. If being chunky ever comes back in style, these will be relics from a bygone era. Something this trendy and appearance altering reveals your desire for acceptance. A man should be overjoyed if you are wearing this type of lingerie, as it reveals you to be submissive and living to please him at all costs.

  • Panty Hose and a Boring Bra
    In covering your legs and approaching your intimate wear with practicality over everything else, you are holding back in looking for love. Perhaps there is a broken heart in your past that taught you that love hurts. Now you make sure to reveal nothing to the world that might inspire such a hurtful occurrence again. It is not that all hope is lost, though. Your commitment to healing by emphasizing personal comfort over style is a commitment to getting better in order to be the best possible partner should a good relationship come along.

  • Bikini Bottoms and a Push-Up Bra
    In an attempt to look your best, sometimes you have to augment what is there … but don't call it false advertising. In making the most of what you have you are advertising yourself much like a product. When you treat yourself like a commodity that will go to the highest bidder, your true feelings about love liken it to a commercial transaction: deliver a quality product to the customer and you are both satisfied. That is, until one of you gets the urge to go "shopping" again.

  • Sports Bra / Workout Underwear
    If you work out often, you will get in the habit of wearing the underwear that is most comfortable for physical exertion. This is also an indicator that your hopes for love are completely in your own control. Your confidence and dedication to being the best you can be and staying in great shape translates into only accepting healthy relationships into your world and not modifying who you are to fit the needs of a partner.

  • Garter Belt with Stockings and Lace
    Don't you just love to take the extra time to add a sex appeal that causes more than a few gawkers to get the hint? This sense of drama drives your hopes for love. You want a rebel and a rock star all rolled into one and you might break a few hearts along the way as you search for this demigod of a stud. What you might find along the way is that all that drama and excitement only ends up scaring the good ones away and love only becomes more difficult to attract.

  • Corset
    The old school way of modifying your appearance is also a way of training your body to eat less and getting the gorgeous hourglass figure you deserve ahead of the diet. Your hope for love is described in the willingness to put up with a little pain and modify what there is to be gained, all in the name of being who you are: a true partner willing to put the work into a relationship to make it work.

  • Underwear as Outerwear
    This is a trend that pretends to be revealing but in reality is a refusal to start the healing. You will not see a girl experiment with this stage of style for long, but a woman who adopts this look is letting the world know that she has a broken heart and does not want to let it heal. Long-term continuation of this look can lead to a self-destructive streak.

  • Men's Underwear
    Some of the most feminine women wear men's underwear. It is not a political statement of equality. In fact, women who avoid the trappings of femininity in order to maximize comfort are often women who are quite secure in their bodies and sexuality. These are women who might even be experimental and see love as a fluid relationship that need not be tied to monogamy if partnership pleasure can be found somewhere down the road of excess.

  • Commando
    Going out without any underwear on is called, "going commando." This label implies a wild recklessness, but nothing could be further from the truth. Commando is your way of being in complete control. Once a lover knows you wear no underwear, the idea is always present that what you possess is at the ready – this heightened sense on his part makes intimacy between you two yours to control. There is nothing for him to remove; he must await your permission. Commando mission accomplished: Complete control acquired!

If more than one style above would apply to your choices in lingerie, perhaps you are in transition and are subconsciously changing your aspirations in love. Pay attention to what in a man attracts you and how that differs from your taste in guys a year ago – you will find that you are changing your lingerie style as your hopes for love shift to different desires. It is totally natural to change what you will let him take a peek at as your ideal of who he should be evolves.