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Feng Shui Your Bedroom in 8 Steps

Keen Category: Spiritual Advice

A woman's hand holding a feng shui compass, or luopan, in order to better optimize her bedroom for lovemaking

If you are in an intimate relationship, the energy in your bedroom should flow in a positive manner. You want this one area of your world to be the place where your choice in a partner is validated. Love can be strengthened with a healthy dose of physical intimacy. Making your bedroom inviting, pleasant and comfortable are the basics. Investing time and care into creating a positive energy flow in your bedroom will improve your sex life and strengthen your relationship.

Feng shui (pronounced "fung-shway" and rendered as 風水 in traditional Chinese and 风水 in simplified Chinese) is literally translated in English as "wind-water". An age-old system of aesthetics from China, feng shui is frequently used today as a practice of optimizing your interior spaces for maximum positive energy flow. The belief is that energy is disrupted by a variety of common things that we add to our buildings. There are other things that can be placed in a room that assist in the positive flow of energy. Additionally, simple architectural features can assist or disrupt this energy that feng shui proponents call qi (rendered in traditional Chinese as 氣 and 气 in simplified Chinese). Qi, pronounced "chee" and sometimes spelled as chi, is frequently translated as "energy flow", but its literal translation is "air" or "breath". The better the flow of qi in and around your live and work spaces, the better your life.

There are methods of preparing your house and your workplace for the best possible energy flows. Here are eight tips on preparing, decorating and maintaining a bedroom thru feng shui in order to optimize your love life in general and your relationship specifically.

  1. Flat Ceiling

    If there are pipes or exposed beams above your bed, this can disrupt the qi, especially if you have a partner in the bed with you. Cracks, protrusions, wood slats, and anything that divides the ceiling above your bed – all of these push energy into separating you two. The smoother your bedroom ceiling is, the smoother your physical intimacy will become.

  2. Lamp Lighting

    Overhead lighting pushes good energy out of the bed. Even if you make love with the lights out, there may be times the light above you is on while the two of you are winding down from your day. This short window can bring about sour moods. If you are sitting in the bed reading with the light overhead and you hear your man coming toward the room, switch on a lamp and switch off the overhead light. Light from a lamp allows good energy to move freely through the room, especially when it is soft and emanates from behind an amber-hued lampshade.

  3. Headboard Switch-a-roo

    Do you want to bring a man into your bedroom or keep him there? The position of your bed is quite important in this matter. The headboard of your bed should be on the wall opposite the doorway from which you enter the bedroom. This way you will absorb the energy that enters your bedroom and the energy will bring you the man for whom you wish. Keeping him, however, requires a change of plans. Once you are sure you want the man to stay around, you must turn the bed around and put your headboard on the same wall as the door into your bedroom. This will create energy that holds together what has already formed and might make him hold negative views of women who desire his attention other than you. The trick is in timing this turning. Too early and you may not end up wanting him in your life. Too late and he will have seen the possibilities of a relationship with another woman as tempting enough to make his exit.

  4. Pairs in Your Décor

    Harmonious energy will reflect the surroundings. If your desire is partnership in the bedroom, you must decorate this space with pairs of things. Perhaps you have space on a dresser for two lamps. Drapes with a distinctive trim will transform your dull window covering into a delineated pairing that cooperates on the same purpose, the assurance of privacy for the two of you.

  5. No Mirrors

    Mirrored décor is a sensitive area of feng shui. Mirrors reflect negative energy back outward. The only place in your bedroom that a mirror should hang is across from the doorway. Negative energy will bounce out of the room this way. A mirror hung above the doorway to any room in your house is a foolproof foundation of modern feng shui practice. A man who is not in love with you but has seduced you for a physical pursuit will recoil upon entering your bedroom if there is a mirror above the doorway. A small round mirror is all that is required to protect yourself from the evil side of romance.

  6. Flowers

    Flowers represent fertility and emphasize the feminine biological mandate to reproduce. Even if you have no intention of reproducing, grounding your bedroom energy into as decidedly feminine will invite the opposite – masculine energy will be drawn into your bedroom. Trim the thorns from all roses. This is very important. All barbed branches, thorns and needles must be clipped. A cactus in your bedroom is out of the question unless you are interested in being alone. A pair of white roses with the thorns shorn from the stems will create intense partnership energy in your bedroom.

  7. Less Glass and Electricity

    While everyone needs an alarm clock, having as few electrical appliances in your bedroom will electrify your intimate partnering. The flow of positive energy is weakened by the stream of disruptions that surround electrical devices, be they battery-operated or plugged-in. Glass blocks qi from forming and disrupts harmonious and balanced energy that forms in well-balanced places. The goal of feng shui is to create a space that maximizes your serenity, asserts your personal power and revives your personal energy. Partnerships can be reborn every day in a healthy, happy and vibrant bedroom, but glass and electrical devices, especially computers and televisions, are best left to other rooms of the house where they do not necessarily have to compete with your nightly romantic coupling.

  8. Peaceful, Abstract Art

    A stylish Andy Warhol print might be a good financial investment and a triumph of pop art, but your love life will not last fifteen minutes with one hanging in your bedroom. Feng shui demands soft colors, peaceful settings and low levels of contrast. Lights and darks must blur in harmony to achieve the peace that is necessary for your relationship to have repeatedly successful lovemaking. A framed poster of a Mark Rothko abstraction (without a glass cover, of course) will bring a serenity that leads to ecstasy between you two. Consider a diptych (two paintings that combine to become one scene) on canvas of a sensual composition that goes beyond illustration and language. When hung above your headboard, this will reflect the eternal depths of love that you seek to reflect in your partnership. The harmony of feng shui goes beyond the verbal descriptions, as it becomes something that makes you feel comfortable on a daily basis.

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