Keen Category: Love Advice
February is one of the most romantic months; somehow however, it seems to become more glorified and commercialized every year. This is a time when florists, chocolatiers, chefs, greeting card vendors, and jewelers anticipate their biggest profits. But Valentine’s Day wasn’t initially intended as a gift giving holiday and the true meaning is lost in the grandeur. Even modest nations have taken up the holiday through commercialization rather than for its intended purpose; to mark the death of three different priests named “Valentine” and the festivity of a Pegan holiday.
It was claimed that a Roman emperor did not want Christianity to be practiced, and thus put St. Valentine in prison because he would not give up his faith. While in jail, he fell in love with a jailer’s daughter, Julia. The day before his execution (which would be on February 14) he compelled Julia never to lose faith, and he signed “Your Valentine”. Never in his message did he write “We” or “Love,” as it wasn’t just about romance. The letters were based upon hope, faith, loving yourself, and the higher self.
Vedic philosophies have always ingrained the idea of the “One” and notion of “Three” in its teachings. Our images of the world are formed and divided by three single entities: the “One” which is the self, character, and our ego, which controls how we see, act, and react in “our world.” The rudimentary nature of our own ego robs us of love, empathy, and mercy; equally, it can entice the same. Combined, we form the power of the spirit.
The spirit of the ego can be either negative or positive yet, always defined as self-love. If the body, mind, and spirit are not in sync, we may not see, feel, or recognize the sense of true love, as love is a personal perception built upon what one experiences in their “world”. Our “world” revolves around others who dictate what type of personality, or role, that we play. For example, if we are angry, we may be bitter or cold towards others. If we are happy, we may be welcoming and spirited. To understand how our actions and reactions build relationships, or rather, attract relationships is to take complete and full self-accountability for everything we do and are. Therefore, to truly and unconditionally love someone, one must first understand and love themselves.
In Vedic Philosophies, love begins with one of the most beautiful stories ever written in the Gita (Hindu Scriptures); that of Krishna and Radha. Krishna (Deity of Love), tantalized Gopies (women groupies) through the music of his bamboo flute. Every time the music played, Gopies flocked to him. But there was one-woman he loved the most and she to him, her name was Radha. Their love was pure, innocent and the most spiritual in the world as written in the Gita and Mahabharata (Ancient Hindu Scripture). However, Radha and Krishna never married.
Though the meaning of the pure love varies between culture, scripture, and folklore, the main synopsis remains. It is also concluded that God is neither man nor woman; rather, God is the combination of masculine and feminine power. Hence, everyone is unique, just like Radha is power (Shakthi-Strength) and Krishna is the holder of the same. Without one the other does not exist. This is the very thing that makes us unique individuals.
It was glorified that “love is selfless while marriage is an agreement or a contract between people”- Gita. The moral of Radha Krishna’s love story is that we live in a material world of possessions and fulfilling our own desires. We can try to show pure love but this is only because our desires want it, and want to possess it. One cannot be possessed, nor have passionate desires, and be spiritual, as Krishna (God) lives in all of us and within our own characteristics. This means if we cannot hate ourselves; we need to have self-confidence and self-realization push away all the negatives of life, allowing us to learn to be the Skathi (feminine) and one who possesses it (Krishna) so we can love others as we love ourselves.
But what does self-love look like in our day-to-day living? Self-love is confidence, trust, self-respect, and self-image. Hence, self-love is not jealousy, obsession, envy, or deception. Self-love is yoga, meditation, sleep, health, respect, spiritual fitness, with everything in fairness. Self-love is not easy as we are so involved in taking care of others. As I have always told my clients, we must start with baby steps. The first step is always “let go and bring in.” When negatives go you will realize you may have been holding on to things that no longer need your energy. With practice, there will be more for you and others. So, when Valentine’s Day comes, remember the true meaning of the day. Valentine’s Day is not for gifts to show that you care, but gifts to ourselves that will help us discover what love really is.
About the Author:
Maharani is Certified Vedic Philosophical Ayurvedic Theoretical Adviser, Sanskrit tarot reader, intuitive, clairalience, and divination through mantras and poojas. She has made over 18,156 accurate predictions and counting. At a very early age she was taught the skills of Vedic divination through rigorous religious teachings. She specializes in In-Depth Spiritual, tarot card and love relationships readings. Open your mind to unique prospective to finding what’s best for you.