Yes I believe it’s invasive when strangers ask why don’t you want to do something. But not invasive to ask someone who u are close to that you made plans with why. I didn’t want to appear distrustful . So I didn’t ask. But I can’t imagine being with someone one long term or married to a man who gets squeamish if I ask why don’t they don’t want to do (planned) xyz? He asked if I was off Monday then if I wanted to hang Monday instead. But We had this convo Fri. I told him Sunday. But this time, I put his apparent ‘want’ first and said Monday. We talk almost everyday. Sundays is our day. We plan move in together. But things just changed the last few Sundays. I was suspicious. Sorry to upset u