Everywhere you look you see people in love: at the beach, eating dinner at a restaurant, even at the supermarket. But the frustrating thing is while love may be all around you, for some reason, you just can’t seem to bring it home. You’re either meeting all the wrong people, or just not meeting anyone at all.
And while you might think you don’t have any options, you actually do have a couple of choices: You can curse your luck . . . or you can change it.
How? By releasing negative energy and behaviors that are either holding you back or closing you off from love signals that might be meant for you. Whether consciously or subconsciously, you may be putting up barriers to love that you’re not even aware of. It’s as if it’s raining love in buckets, but on an emotional level, you’re holding up an invisible umbrella and bundled up to weather a Nor’ Easter.
In order for love to find you, you have to lose the layers and put down the parasol. Following these steps isn’t guaranteed to put you on the path to true romance, but they will certainly help you become a more visible target the next time Cupid sets you in his sights.
1. Clean Up Your Act
When it comes to trying to attract love into your life, if you’re surrounding yourself with junk (both literally and figuratively) you might as well be wearing full-body camouflage. All that “stuff” you’re holding onto is actually turning you from a bright, shiny diamond, glittering in a showcase, into that proverbial needle in a haystack that’s almost impossible to find. Sure, someone might accidentally step on you, but chances are, they’re going to look in more accessible places for romance.
So on a literal level, it’s a great idea to periodically go through your possessions and get rid of things that aren’t actively adding to your agenda. Donate. Toss. Repurpose. Don’t worry–you absolutely don’t have to get rid of everything, but even divesting yourself of a few possessions can make you feel lighter and change the flow of energy from “stop” to “go.”
On a figurative level, you must try to learn to “forgive and release.” Bad things can and do happen, even to good people. However, when it comes to not finding the love you seek, you need to differentiate between an explanation and an excuse. Understanding how you got to where you are is healthy, but yanking out past misfortunes, especially romantic ones, as the reason “no one is good enough for you” or “is only going to hurt you anyway” can become a crutch that serves to hold you back rather than support your efforts. Learning to acknowledge your past and then let it go will help you release emotional baggage that’s keeping you from finding the love you seek.
2. Feng Shui Your Bedroom
Feng Shui is a traditional Chinese art for balancing energy to promote health and harmony for the mind, body and spirit. Practitioners of this ancient technique believe that when energy is out of balance, positive energy can either be blocked, and thereby prevented from reaching you, or actually drained away. By applying the principles of Feng Shui to your bedroom, you can both attract and activate positive “chi” (a Chinese term which loosely translates to “life force”) that can help energize your love life.
Everything from the placement of your bed or where you hang mirrors, to removing non-essential electronics and the color scheme you choose can have a negative impact on your chi, but one of the first rules of Feng Shui reinforces the idea that less is more. Nothing is more detrimental to a positive flow of chi than clutter. A neat bedroom promotes harmony and attracts love.
Do you know the difference between meditating on love and obsessing over it? One employs a practical technique called “metta” that helps you bring the healthy relationship you seek into clearer focus, the other allows your negative emotions to consume you.
Metta teaches that in order to love others, we must first love ourselves. It shows how to focus on love that already exists, and prepares you to be accepting of more love by creating a positive environment in which to sow the seeds of future romance.
Joy begets joy. Do things that please you. Create good work. Share yourself and put yourself out there. Sing. Dance. Volunteer. Don’t abandon common sense, but do open yourself to new adventures. Say yes because saying yes to the universe is a signal that you’re ready to embrace romance when it comes your way, and helps make you a lightning rod for love.
5. Stop Looking
Think of finding love like growing a garden. You wouldn’t go out and buy the flowers before you’d found a sunny spot, gotten rid of the weeds, prepared the soil, and made sure you had water close by, would you? If you concentrate on creating an environment in which love can flourish, rather than being on a perpetual lookout for your perfect soulmate, you might not have to chase love down. There’s actually a good chance it will come to you.
Having trouble getting the love you seek into your life? A KEEN advisor can help you open the channel and let the positive energy flow right on in.