Keen Category: Love Advice
Valentine’s Day is coming up and already many clients are calling, interested to find out if they will end up happy or disappointed. “Will I hear from her on Valentine’s Day?” “Is he going to ask me out for Valentine’s Day?” and “Will he get me a gift?” have been the questions of the season.
I’m here to reinforce the fact that you don’t have to be disappointed on Valentine’s Day! It’s not the actions of others that cause disappointment, instead it is your expectations.
So, how can you avoid being let down this Valentine’s Day?
First, understand it’s a commercially designated day of love by Hallmark that requires you to buy gifts for someone. That’s a red flag that can actually cause stress, anxiety, and unhappiness. Why not decide that all you need this year is spend the day spreading love wherever you go?
Use this as an opportunity to spend a day with that special someone, or maybe a few special loved ones. Use it as a time to generate more memories, show your love or feel loved. If you are evolved enough, you don’t even need a formal Valentine’s Day for this.
A study conducted by CreditDonkey.com in 2013 concluded that the majority of people in relationships are disappointed with what their significant other’s get them for Valentine’s Day. The study states that about 65% of Americans plan to give the gift of a nicer than usual dinner date, but only 48% of people want dinner as a gift. 37% of those in relationships plan to give flowers to their significant other, and only 20% of these recipients actually want flowers.
I read once that happiness is reality minus expectations. Sometimes expectations for Valentine's Day can be so high that no one can reach them. Spending weeks thinking that your significant other is going to hold a Pepsi Super Bowl halftime show for you could set you up for big disappointment. And, some may chafe under the standard roles of Valentine's Day and feel that the holiday is old-fashioned.
Treat yourself in a special way. Take a bag of candy (or treats) to work and hand them out through the day while telling people they are special to you. If you do receive anything, however small, be grateful for it. Show gratitude to those that offered it.
Once you make a change for Valentine’s Day, you will feel more fulfilled and rewarded than ever before. And, if your significant other surprises you, then you now have a treasured memory.
About the Author:
Joyce is a Psychic Medium, Huna and Toltec trained Shamanic Practitioner, Usui and Toltec Nagual Reiki Master She uniquely brings a calm, reassuring message, in easy, simple terms, for clarity to your life questions. She delivers guidance with compassion and warmth through her ability to inspire real understanding and transformation to those confused by unclear emotions and experiences.