There are times in our lives when we’re forced to let go and move on. The truth is, some of us, even when forced to, won’t! I say this with love. Holding onto the past, to a lost love or situation, can be very damaging and toxic. But with some reflection and positive action, you can find yourself moving on to a brighter future. To get started on moving on, try following these steps!
Acknowledge You Must Let Go to Be Healthy
Pain and the sense of loss and things, in general, won’t just go away. I, for one, wish there was a magic button that you could push and “Poof!” it would all be fixed. Such a button doesn’t exist. So, we must just allow ourselves to come to terms that what was can never be the same again.
Write down all of your feelings. Even the little ones about the situation. Get it all out! You may have to repeat this step several times to approach some closure.
Express Your Feelings & Take Responsibility
Sadly, we have fault in every situation like this. Acknowledge your part. Take responsibility for where you made mistakes. I know it hurts, I’ve been there! If it’s a person who hurt you, let them know.
Also, talk to a friend, counselor or religious leader you trust. Voice how you’re feeling. Don’t bury your pain. Another step is to write it out. Why do you feel the way you do? Get it out and read it again and again until it stops stinging.
Drop the Victim Mentality
Being the victim makes things feel better, albeit temporarily. Sadly, the world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special, your feelings matter. Just don’t confuse “your feelings matter” with “your feelings are all that matter!”
Life can suck, but victims don’t move forward, they just hurt themselves and those around them. So, it’s time to get over yourself! I know it’s not easy, but you can do it!
Focus on the Future
Let go of the past. When we live in the past, we’re doomed to repeat it! Write down ten reasons why you know you should let the past go. Be specific and when you’re feeling your resolve weakening you read over your reasons. Then, shift your focus to the present and to the future.
First forgive the other person (if there was another person). Then, forgive yourself! We can’t change the past, and holding on to guilt, anger, resentment and hurt helps no one – especially YOU!
Start letting it go. That’s the healthy thing to do!
About the Author:
Adam Stone is a master psychic, medium, clairvoyant, clairaudient, energy reader, and healer. Adam connects with spirit and departed loved ones to provide detailed insight into life’s hard questions about love, relationships, career, and life path. A natural born psychic, Adam illuminates what is unseen. Adam is a twin-flame expert.