What is a Twin Flame?

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In Love and Relationship readings, questions about soulmates come up quite frequently, whether that means wanting to know how to attract your soulmate, or confirmation that you’ve met the Mr. or Mrs. right that will be by your side for the long-haul. But did you ever consider whether or not you’ve met your twin flame? People often use the terms “soulmate” and “twin flame” interchangeably, but the truth of the matter is, they are completely different. A soulmate is your perfect match whereas your twin flame is characterized as your perfect mirror. So, what exactly does that mean and how do you know which type of relationship you’re in? You’ll know by the end of this article. Everything you need to know about a twin flame relationship lies ahead. 

Soulmate Versus Twin Flame

When you meet your soulmate, it’s likely that you feel you need to work on yourself or feel you are not worthy of the other person’s love—this isn’t always a bad thing. There are some soulmates that come into your life, not for romance, but to help you realize your strengths and become more self-aware so that you can evolve in certain aspects of your life. Karmic lovers only care about themselves whereas soulmates care about you more than anyone else. While you can definitely have a romantic relationship with a soulmate, it’s not the same as the connection you have with a twin flame. 

Twin flame lovers are an amalgamation of both karmic and soulmate qualities, but with the addition of some completely new characteristics, too. It’s these additions that will benefit you because your ego and sense of self will be challenged. Twin flames are someone you share the same soul with, which coincides with the theory that the two flames were previously separated from one soul and split into two different (physical) bodies. Now, about that “mirror-like” quality. Everything you have spent your life running from or denying is now staring you straight in the face. 

Signs You Are in a Twin Flame Relationship

Is all of this intel making your head spin? Relax. Here are some telltale indicators that you’ve connected with your twin flame: 

  • You get a strong sense of déjà vu

It’s possible that you get an uncanny sense that you’ve met this person before, either in your dreams, or a past life. The depth of familiarity is overwhelming yet warm and comforting at the same time. 

  • Your relationship is challenging, yet transformative

All relationships come with their share of challenges, but the two of you take any struggles as an opportunity to learn more about yourselves, thus ascending to a higher state of understanding and authenticity.

  • Despite your abundant differences, your core fundamentals are innately similar

You have different hobbies or opinions about various topics, yet you still embrace the same core fundamentals that serve as the solid foundation of your relationship. 

  • You’re always drawn together, in one way or another

Two of you have such an intense magnetism that no matter how far away you may be from one another, you feel naturally in-tune with one another—almost in a telepathic sense. 

  • You’re the epitome of Yin and Yang

Where one of you is strong, the other is weak—and vice-versa. So, when you two merge, there’s a strong sense of puzzle pieces connecting on both a spiritual and practical level. You may even discover aspects of your relationship that you didn’t realize were there to begin with.

  • You’re always on-and-off

One week you’re together, and then you’re not, and then you are again. This is likely because such intensity of closeness may be too much for one or the other to handle over a long period of time. 

  • Your relationship expands your mental and spiritual horizons

While you may not always see eye-to-eye, your partner’s love helps you see beyond your current reality and enter a new realm of soul and spirit.

Twin Flame Stages

As noted, twin flame relationships have their ups and downs—like any partnership—but there are some specific stages that personify this particular union. Let’s take a closer look at the rollercoaster ride. 

Stage 1: The desire to find one another

You’ve had copious bad relationships that have caused you to consider giving up on finding love—yet there’s that gnawing feeling in your heart (and gut) that tells you your missing puzzle piece is out there. 

Stage 2: Feeling a sense of your twin flame

Visualization is a powerful aid for many aspects of life, so when you start to notice a strong connection with someone special in your space, don’t deny those feelings. 

Stage 3: You fall fast

When you begin to fall for this person, it will be fast and hard. It’s quite possible that you even develop strong feelings for him or her before truly getting to know them. Though wonderful, this could prompt fear and cause one of you to bold, too. This is where the earliest signs of complications set in. 

Stage 4: The relationship

Just when your relationship matures and reaches the point of feeling connected, comfortable and joyful, all of a sudden the union starts to feel stagnant; brace yourself. 

Stage 5: Emotional hurt and purging

This stage can be the most difficult. Your twin flame becomes distant for no apparent reason, which prompts you to feel hurt, disappointed, and confused. You start to relive disappointments and fears from previous relationships, which eventually manifests into feelings of anger.

Stage 6: Runner and chaser

As things become more difficult in a relationship, it’s not uncommon for one partner—or sometimes, both—to distance themselves from one another. This involves completely ceasing communication on a physical and emotional level. A game of cat and mouse can ensue, or the relationship may terminate completely. 

Stage 7: Surrender and let go

At this point, you’ve reached your wit’s end you have no idea what the future has in store. While you have no idea what caused your partner to pull away, you need to put effort into the healing process—even though part of you wants to let things go and the other part is just utterly confused. Well, guess what? It’s not uncommon to repeat this step more than once in a twin flame relationship. 

Stage 8: Making it work

Despite fighting many odds, the final stage involves getting together and making things work for the long-term. Congratulations. You and your partner finally understand how to have a stable and emotionally connected relationship. 

Twin Flame Relationship Tips

As you can see, twin flame relationships are more complicated than you may think! Even though you may love one another unconditionally, there are several variables and challenges that prevent a couple from reaching stage eight. This is why it’s important to remember that in any relationship—not just twin flames—that you learn to love yourself before loving someone else. A solid heart equates to a solid mind. 

Keep in mind that despite the stages, typical nuances, and cliches associated with twin flame relationships, there’s no one-size-fits-all partnerships. Trust your intuition and if you feel that you need to let a relationship go, let it go. Cat and mouse isn’t for everyone and the game can potentially cause more harm than good. At the same time, patience is a virtue and avoid comparing your relationship to others—everyone’s journey is different. 

Wrapping it All Up 

Now that you know more about the twin flame meaning and what it takes to get through a twin flame love relationship, it’s time to talk turkey. While knowledge is power, don’t stress over connecting with your twin flame—or with a soulmate for that matter. The universe and your higher self knows what’s best for you, so let them be your guides to help you find the right person for you in this lifetime.

Do you still have questions about twin flames, or are you looking for help in navigating an intense twin flames relationship? Advisors on Keen are available 24/7 to help bring clarity to your love life and relationships. 

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